If you can’t distinguish between the Vietnamese War and the Axis Concentration Camps on a scale of atrocity, I’m doubtful there’s any intellectual exercise that’s going to clarify that for you.
Absolutely, there's no intellectual process to get there. [0] Rather it requires a lifelong immersion in "news" media
committed to minimizing USA war crimes, coupled with an aggressively jingoistic ignorance of history.
[0] that is, one brutally murdered innocent child of innocent parents is not really different than some other brutally murdered innocent child of innocent parents.